Jim's Letter

Dear Jim,

Today, you begin a long battle with cancer. You will beat it—but it will return not once, but twice. You will doubt your ability to stay tough. It will not be easy, and it will not be fun, but you will get through it.

On the way home from the appointment you will pull over on the side of the road and cry. The tears that Kelly men are not supposed to shed. These tears will not be for you, they will be for your beautiful wife and girls. They have already gone through so much with the loss of their son and their brother Hunter. You will wonder how are you going to tell them that you have cancer.

When you are down or feel like you can’t keep fighting, rely on the “Four F’s:”

Faith: Believe in the power of prayer. Know that Hunter is with you in spirit. You have an angel watching over you.

Family: In your darkest moments, your family will be your light. Jill will be your head coach. She, Erin, and Camryn will journal everything that happens and keep track of your progress along the way. Danny will oversee logistics for everyone. LET THEM HELP.

Friends: People want to help you, but you may have to tell them how. Take it day-by-day.

Fans: Your Buffalo Bills family will be there for you, from start to finish—and that will bring a positive energy that helps you fight.

So, keep going because you have amazing people around you who need you.

Keep going because others can learn from your struggles.

Keep going because you are Kelly Tough.

With Love,


Jim is a head & neck cancer survivor


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