Patrick's Letter

Dear Patrick,

Even though you come from a large family of medicine, you’re blindsided. They said cancer.

You need to fully accept the diagnosis to stay clear-headed. Think of all the things you take for granted: raking leaves, your job as a librarian, a crappy round of golf. You’re no professional, but playing the drums, piano, and guitar is what fuels your spirit.

Learn as much as you can in order to participate with your care team. Rely on reputable and up-to-date sources, and definitely avoid “Dr. Google.”

Discover that the most important element in your emotional and psychological well-being is human connection. You need to connect with others in the same situation as you. They’ll be your teachers in how to live with this new reality. You will realize the most important principle they teach you is hope.

I know this is all a lot to take in. But, one day in the future you’ll have a smile on your face.

With Love,


Patrick is a melanoma survivor


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